Relationship

Write Letters!

Hi everyone Kathryn here, so it may seem like my last few updates have been all doom and gloom, but for today my advice is guaranteed to put a smile on somebody’s face. * So today my advice is to write letters.

Writing letters is something that me and my boyfriend do when we can’t see each other for weeks on end, we’ll write a letter and then the other will keep it in our bag/ draw/ wherever. So that when we feel down we can read the letter and feel a bit more positive.

Yeah, you may be thinking what’s the point? Stamps, papers, envelops all cost money and surely it’s far easier just to pick up the phone and give them a ring. And the thing is while you can ring and text people sometimes I find that it feels more personal writing a letter. And it means a lot more to the person receiving the letter because they know that you’ve gone to the effort and taken the time to write the letter.

The other positive of writing a letter is that you can keep the letter and treasure it, when my boyfriend sends me letters I’ll put it in a box full of memories. And I know I’ll keep those letters forever.

While I’m talking about writing letters to help cope during long distance, this doesn’t have to be relationship specific, and you could write letters to friends and family and see a smile spread on their face when they open that letter.

So, write a letter and put a smile on somebody’s face, you never know you could be making somebody’s day by writing a letter. And that’s all from me for today, until next time, Kathryn.

* My boyfriend told me that he couldn’t stop smiling after reading the letter.

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Work Advice

Don’t expect to know Everything!

Starting a new job is never easy, especially if you have just come from university; you may fall into the illusion that you already know everything. You may think that because you’ve attended the lectures and achieved firsts in all of your modules that you know everything.

So when you start work and you get stuck on something you can get very demoralised, (especially if you’ve asked for help- and it’s a five minute fix). However the thing is your boss, your co-workers, everyone, no-one expects you to go in there and know everything.

That’s why when you start work there is normally an induction process, they are teaching you how things work, and it is there to bring you up to speed on some things that you need to learn that you may not know already. And even after the induction process you are still allowed to ask for help and ask questions.

Yes, you may have done really well in university, but a working environment is very different; you may find that you end up doing something in a different way to the one you were taught, and you have to adapt.

And of course University can’t teach you everything, there will be things that you do in work that you haven’t learn’t in University and that’s what one of the things work is; a learning experience. And while your working there you will start to learn more.

Anyway my tip of the day is that don’t start work expecting to know everything, because you don’t, and don’t be disappointed that you don’t know everything. You are at work to learn new skills and improve your old ones.

So that’s all from me for today, until next time, Kathryn!

Moving House

Don’t Isolate Yourself

Hello everyone Kathryn here, and first of all apologies for the lack of updates recently, I ended up using all of my mobile data and not having enough to update the blog. So this evening, I’m holed up in the library and using the computers.

So today I would like to continue from one of my previous blog posts where I empathized the importance of getting out of your flat. However today I would like to stress how important it is to talk to people and not isolate yourself.

Living on my own was one of my biggest challenges, it was something that I never thought was possible yet here I am in my own flat and managing perfectly okay. Yes, you may be sitting there thinking but school, university, work is really hard, how can you say living on your own is the hardest thing?

And yes, school and university are both challenging, however the big difference between that and living on your own is that when you’re living on your own; you are as it says on the tin; you are on your own. When you’re at school or university chances are that you’ll have lecturers, teachers and friends to ask for help. However if you are living on your own you are for the most part alone.

Yes you will still have colleagues, lecturers, family and friends to support you but for the most part you have to figure it out for yourself. And whilst it is hard to figure it all hard, one thing that it’s really easy to do is to isolate yourself.

When you’re living on your own it can be really easy to feel down, and because you are on your own it feels that sometimes there isn’t anyone to pick you up when you’re feeling down. We can end up feeling that we’re alone in the world, when in reality our friends and family are only a phone call away.

And my advice to you is to not isolate yourself, if you keep talking to people on a regular basis it will help you feel like you’re not alone. Just keep talking to people, whether their colleagues, friends, family or even just cashiers. If you don’t you will end up feeling isolated and cut off from the world.

 

General Advice

Nothing Lasts Forever!

Hi everyone, Kathryn here and I have more or less spent the day wondering how on Earth September is just two days away. And it made me realise that this year has gone really quickly (much too quickly for my liking).

Yes, admittedly in June when I first started my industrial year the days seemed to stretch on for years. But looking back on it the first 1/4 of my industrial year has gone by really quickly.

And what I’ve learnt over the past few months is that no matter how long the days will seem, nothing lasts forever and time will soon fly by.

If you give yourself something to look forward to it can feel like time is going faster. (I already have things to look forward to in October and November).Just remember nothing is forever, no matter how hard something seems, it will be all over soon.

And that’s all for me for today, until next time, Kathryn.

Moving House

Book Viewings!

Hey everyone, Kathryn here and for today’s tip my advice to you is to view bookings for flats.

Moving to a new flat is never easy, whether you’re moving to halls, to a shared flat or a one bedroom flat it’s never easy. There’s a lot of decisions to make including the big question, do I see myself living there?

But one thing I would encourage to do is to book viewings, in my first year of university I didn’t go to the room tours of the halls I was living. And although I don’t regret this decision because I met one of my best friends, I wish I had been able to walk around the accommodation before applying.

Although I didn’t view the halls I was living in for my first year of uni, there was a video of what it looked like and so on. While this is ideal if you can’t actually view the room, the fact that you can’t just walk in means it’s harder to picture yourself living there. More to the point I wasn’t 100% sure what it would be like and I ended up feeling like I was being overcharged for the accommodation.

When second year came around I was a bit more prepared. I choose to live in the halls that I had previously visited on one of the open days, and one that I had visited a lot due to a friend living there in my first year. I was a lot happier there since being able to visit it meant I got a feel as to what it would be like to live there.

However when it came to booking for flats for my industrial year I postponed it as much as possible but I still managed to book a couple of viewings. One of which was perfect and I was able to imagine myself living there easily. Needless to say when I got back the first thing I did was pay the deposit.

So my advice to you would be to book viewings, and see if you can imagine yourself living there, remember it’s a big decision and it’s important that you are happy with the outcome.

And that’s all from me for today, until next time, Kathryn.

Getting a Job Advice

Prepare for Interviews!

Hi everyone, Kathryn and today I’m going to talk about one of the sad facts about growing up: having to apply for jobs and then prepare for interviews. And that’s my tip of the day prepare for interviews.

Don’t go into an interview blind, know some facts about the company, and have some already prepared answers to the bog standard interview questions.

Where do you see yourself in five years time?

Interviews are important and it’s highly likely that you won’t be the only candidate their interview. So when you get into that room you need to know your stuff and convince them that you’re the right candidate for the job.

(However although it’s important to prepare dont over prepare, you want it to sound natural and not robotic).

I had my first proper interview back in January (I say proper because I had a couple of mock interviews last year). And it was very close to January exams so I ended up prioritising exam prep over my interview. Until a couple of days before when my dad asked me a couple of interview questions and I blanked.

I then spent the next few days going through interview questions and figuring out what I was going to say. Whilst in the interview room they didn’t ask me any of these questions (it was more of a programming test I.e so you said you know about databases so let’s ask you questions about that). Knowing what I was going to say helped me feel a lot calmer in the interview room.

So for today’s tip of the day I would advise you to practise answers to interview questions and walk into that interview room with a clear head. I find it helpful to make notes and read them aloud.

And that’s all from me for today, until next time, Kathryn!

Relationship

Have a Routine!

Hi everyone, Kathryn here and my tip of the day is at aimed at couples doing long distance and that is have a routine.

This is loosely based on an episode I recently watched of How I met your Mother. In the episode Victoria gets an offer to go on a culinary course… in Germany. During the episode both Ted and Victoria have to decide whether they should break up and Victoria moves to Germany or stay together in New York.However what irked me is that all the characters in the show seem to think long distance won’t work. (With the exception of Lily who says that the only way she got through long distance was by knowing her soulmate was back in New York).

The thing is long distance can work. I’ve been in a long distance relationship for two and a half months and it’s still going okay. All you need is to be able to trust the other person.

However another thing that I think helps is having a routine. Without really knowing it me and my boyfriend starting a routine when we started look distance.

In the mornings he’ll phone to make sure I’m awake (normally I’m having breakfast and my phone is on silent). Then when I’m getting the bus I’ll text him, and we’ll send a few occasional texts before speaking too each other lunchtime. Then after work we’ll phone again in the evening.

Personally I like having this routine because it makes the distance feel so much shorter when I hear his voice.

It is also important to put in the effort when starting a long distance relationship. The two of us take in turns of visiting each other every two weeks. Remember a relationship is a two way thing and you both need to put in the effort.

So, have a routine and it’ll make your relationship feel more secure and it’ll help make long distance less scary. And that’s all from me for today, until next time, Kathryn.

Friendship

Organise things!

Hi everyone, Kathryn here and today I’m going to refer back to a post I wrote a while back where I wrote (or rather ranted) about how it’s important not to allow people to take advantage of you. 

However today’s tip of the day is to organise things to do with your friends. Yes, one problem of organising things is that people can start to expect you to organise anything.

But if you don’t organise things, then… how can you make brilliant memories? Yes, it’s all well and good to hang out with your friends and order takeout and watch films but sometimes it’s nice to go out. Sometimes organising things is a good way to make brilliant memories.

I remember last January during my second semester, I got the courage to ask the people I had been sitting with in lectures for about three months if they wanted to hang out of lectures. There were four of us and we were all very introverted. 

If I hadn’t suggested that we all hung out then we probably wouldn’t be as good friends as we are now. And sometimes you just need to be that person who suggests hanging out.

After all if you don’t ask then you’ll never know. So my advice is to organise things and start making memories that you’ll cherish forever.

And that’s all from me for today, until next time, Kathryn.

Moving House

Get out of your Flat!

Hey everyone Kathryn here and first of all sorry for not updating on Saturday, I could give you a long winded explanation as to why I didn’t update but I suspect that would be both boring for me and for you. Anyway so for today’s tip of the day I would advise you to get out of your flat. 

Living on your own, or living in university halls is no small feat, going from being dependent on your parents to being independent is a big change. However one of the biggest changes is going from living with your family to living with six other people you don’t know or living on your own.

At the university I went to I ended up sharing a flat with seven other people (who I believe were picked at random). While I made good friends with one of my flat mates, I didn’t really get on with any of my other flat mates.

This made first semester of first year really difficult when around November I felt really isolated. At the time I didn’t have any good friends, only a couple of people I hung out with at lectures. The problem was there was nothing I could do to stop feeling isolated, but what I did find helpful was getting out of that flat.

It doesn’t matter where you go, just get out of that flat: go for a walk, go shopping or even just sit on a bench somewhere. The important thing is to get out of the flat.

Another thing that helped me was that I started making more of an effort to meet up with my friends and the flatmate I was friends outside of lectures. This helped me a lot during second semester and I definitely felt less isolated.

However if you are living on your own then I’d still recommend that you get out of your flat. Personally I love going round all the charity shops on a Saturday and it takes my mind of being alone. And don’t forget, you can still talk and meet up with people!

And that’s all from me for today, until next time, Kathryn

Relationship

Say No to This!

Hey guys, Kathryn here and first of all sorry that I didn’t update yesterday, instead I’m updating today and Samara will still post later. 

So far there have been quite a few tips on relationships, but they have all been about starting a relationship. Today I’m going to dive deeper and talk about something that will ultimately happen in a relationship: sex.

Whether it’s today, tomorrow or somewhere the conversation leading to it will happen eventually.

(Also side note if your cringing at this then don’t worry I’m probably cringing twice as much while writing this).

And for today’s tip of the day I would advise you: to say no if you’re not ready. (And I wish ‘Say No to This’ from Hamilton hadn’t have just come into my head).

There’s no harm in admitting that you’re not ready, there’s no harm in admitting that things are going to fast for you. Remember you make up 50% of this relationship and it’s important that you are moving at a comfortable pace for both of you.

So if you are worrying that you aren’t ready then say so, say no, if they are the right person for you then they’ll be more happy to wait for you.

And that’s all from me for today, until next time, Kathryn!